Help your child open up about grief - without forcing the conversation
Personalised 1:1 grief coaching for widowed mothers who want to support their children while navigating their own loss.
Is this you?
You worry your child is grieving silently because they won’t talk about their feelings.
You’re exhausted trying to balance your own grief while keeping life running for your family.
You wish someone truly understood what it’s like to parent through loss – not just sympathise but know.
If this resonates, you’re in the right place.
The Mirror Method: Why my approach is different
Most grief advice tells you to ask your child: “How are you feeling?”
But here’s what I learned after losing my husband seven years ago: Children don’t open up when questioned. They open up when they see us express our feelings first.
I call it The Mirror Method: Express first, then expect.
When you model emotional honesty, your child learns it’s safe to grieve. They mirror what they see – not what you ask them to feel.
This is what we’ll work on together: helping you show up authentically so your child can do the same.
How 1:1 coaching works
6-session package: £597
Over 2-3 months, we’ll meet online (video or phone) for approximately one hour each session. Together, we’ll focus on:
✔ Supporting your child using The Mirror Method
Practical strategies to help them express feelings naturally, without forcing conversations.
✔ Managing your own grief while parenting
Finding emotional clarity, reducing overwhelm, and creating space for yourself without guilt.
✔ Navigating difficult moments
What to say when your child asks hard questions, acts out, or shuts down completely.
✔ Rebuilding hope
Moving from survival mode to a life where love and connection outshine loss.
Sessions are scheduled around your life – weekly, fortnightly, or as needed during difficult periods.
What past clients say
“Kirsten helped me learn to grieve while parenting. I learned to listen and ask questions that kept the conversation going with my daughter – without her shutting down.” (Susie, mother of a 6-year-old)
“While working with Kirsten I learned to listen for openings with my teenage son, and he started sharing his thoughts. I finally feel like I’m not failing him. Kirsten understands in a way no one else could.” (Widowed mother of a teenage boy)
“Kirsten is a wonderful guide. As a bereaved parent, you want so badly to help your children through their grief, but it’s hard to know how. Kirsten’s support has been incredibly helpful and should be available to all bereaved parents.” (Course participant, mother of 4)
Why work with me?
I’m not just a grief coach – I’m a widowed mother who has lived this journey.
Seven years ago, I lost my husband Jan to ALS. Our daughters were 9 and 6. I understand firsthand what it’s like to parent through unbearable loss while managing your own emotions, work, and daily life.
Beyond my personal experience:
- Master’s degree in Psychology
- Certified grief counsellor and coach
- 7 years supporting widowed parents and their children
My clients tell me they feel less overwhelmed, more confident, and better equipped to support both themselves and their children after our work together.
Ready to take the first step?
Let’s start with a free 30-minute clarity call – no pressure, no obligation.
We’ll talk about:
- What you’re struggling with most right now
- How I can support you and your family in your specific situation
- Whether 1:1 coaching is the right fit for you
There’s no pressure or obligation! Just an honest conversation about where you are and whether working together makes sense.
Frequently asked questions
How long does each session last?
Approximately one hour. We can adjust based on what you need.
What if I need support between sessions?
I offer short check-in calls for moments when you need quick advice or reassurance.
What happens after I book the clarity call?
We’ll have an honest conversation about where you are. If it feels right for both of us, we’ll schedule your first session. If not, that’s okay too.
How are sessions scheduled?
We’ll find times that work around your life – weekly, fortnightly, or more frequent check-ins during difficult periods.
Is this only for recent loss?
No. Whether your loss was recent or years ago, if you’re struggling now, coaching can help.
Do you offer payment plans?
Please reach out if you’d like to discuss payment options.
Coaching terms
- Package valid for 12 months from purchase
- Sessions scheduled flexibly based on your needs
- All sessions online (video or phone call)
- Unused sessions are non-refundable
- Packages are personal and non-transferable
- VAT applies for business invoices
You don’t have to do this alone.