The widowed mother’s support programme
Helping you support your grieving child without losing yourself in the process
Support for the conversations, worries, and overwhelming moments that come after loss, so you do not have to figure it out alone.
You are trying to grieve… while still being the parent your child needs.
And that is one of the hardest things a person can do.
You are trying to hold everything together while your child is hurting too.
You worry about what they are feeling beneath the silence.
You wonder if you are saying the wrong thing, missing something important, or failing them somehow.
And most of the advice out there feels far too simple for what you are actually living through.
“Just talk to them.”
But what if they will not talk?
What if every conversation feels forced, awkward, or shuts down before it even begins?
That is exactly why I created this programme.
A different way to support grieving children
Most parents try to help grieving children by asking questions.
But what I discovered after losing my husband, both through my own daughters and years of supporting widowed mothers, is this:
Children rarely open up because we ask the perfect question.
They open up when they feel emotionally safe.
That is the foundation of the Mirror Method:
Express first – then expect.
Instead of forcing conversations, we create the conditions that make conversations possible.
And once you understand how to recognise those moments and respond differently, everything begins to change.
Over the next 3 months, you will:
- Find your footing in your own grief
- Learn how to support your child without forcing conversations
- Understand how to recognise emotional openings and grief windows
- Feel more confident in difficult parenting moments after loss
- Have practical tools for the conversations that matter most
- Stop feeling like you have to navigate this alone
What’s included in the programme
Six private grief coaching sessions
We meet online or by phone every two weeks and work through whatever feels hardest right now.
Your grief.
Your child’s grief.
The silence.
The guilt.
The difficult questions.
The moments that catch you off guard.
Every session is practical, personal, and focused on helping you feel more supported and emotionally equipped in everyday life.
The in between hotline
Because the hard moments do not wait for your next session.
You can reach out by email or message whenever you need support, reassurance, or guidance between sessions.
No question is too small.
Sometimes you simply need someone in your corner when something difficult happens at bedtime, in the car, after school, or during one of those conversations you were not prepared for.
The grief conversation kit
A complete guide and 64 gentle conversation prompts designed to help grieving children open up naturally.
You can use them:
- at bedtime
- in the car
- on walks
- during quiet moments together
The goal is not to force emotional conversations.
The goal is to make them feel safer, softer, and more natural over time.
This programme is for you if:
- your child rarely talks about grief
- conversations feel difficult or forced
- you are grieving while trying to parent at the same time
- you feel emotionally overwhelmed and alone
- you want practical guidance, not just generic advice
- you want support from someone who truly understands this experience
What past clients say
“Kirsten helped me learn to grieve while parenting. I learned to listen and ask questions that kept the conversation going with my daughter – without her shutting down.” Susie, mother of a 6-year-old
“While working with Kirsten I learned to listen for openings with my teenage son, and he started sharing his thoughts. I finally feel like I’m not failing him. Kirsten understands in a way no one else could.” Widowed mother of a teenage boy
“As a bereaved parent, you want so badly to help your children, but it is hard to know how. Kirsten helped me feel calmer, more confident, and less alone in supporting my children through grief.” Course participant, mother of 4
Why work with me?
I am not just a grief coach.
I am also a widowed mother.
Seven years ago, I lost my husband Jan to ALS while raising our daughters. I know firsthand what it feels like to carry your own grief while trying to emotionally support your children at the same time.
Alongside my personal experience, I bring:
- a Master’s degree in Psychology
- grief counselling and coaching training
- seven years supporting widowed parents and grieving families
But more than anything, I bring understanding of what this life actually feels like behind closed doors.
The Widowed Mother’s Support Programme
£597 pay in full
Or 3 monthly payments of £199
How it works
Step 1
Book a free clarity call
We talk about your situation, your children, and what feels hardest right now.
Step 2
Decide whether the programme feels right for you
No pressure. No obligation.
Step 3
Begin your support programme
You receive immediate access to book your first session and start receiving support.
From that moment, you are not doing this alone anymore.
Frequently asked questions
What if my child refuses to talk about grief
That is incredibly common. Most grieving children do not open up through direct questions or forced conversations. In this programme, you will learn how to create emotional safety so conversations can happen more naturally over time.
Is this only for recent loss?
No. Whether your loss happened months ago or many years ago, these challenges can still affect both you and your child. Many mothers come to me long after the loss, when they realise their child is still struggling silently.
What age is this programme for?
The programme is designed for widowed mothers with grieving children and teenagers of all ages. The conversations and challenges may look different depending on age, but the core principles remain the same.
What if I say the wrong thing?
Most widowed mothers worry about this. The truth is, your child does not need perfect words. They need a parent who is willing to stay present, listen, and keep the door open. That is something we work on together throughout the programme.
What if I am struggling too much myself?
You do not need to have your own grief completely figured out before supporting your child. In fact, one of the biggest parts of this programme is helping you navigate your own grief while still parenting through loss.
What support do I get between sessions?
You will have access to the in between hotline, where you can reach out by email or message whenever difficult moments come up between sessions. Because grief and parenting rarely wait for the “right” moment.
Programme details
- All sessions are held online via video or phone
- The programme is designed to be completed over approximately 3 months
- Flexible scheduling available when life feels overwhelming
- Payment plans available
You don’t have to do this alone.